cassiebones:

batmanisagatewaydrug:

idyll-ism:

sorryiwasasleepagain:

blkbruja:

y’all need therapy. not girlfriends

Or they need a girlfriend that doesn’t mind listening and trying to help them work through their shit and defeat their fucking demons without asking them to pour out their soul to a stranger who is only listening because it’s their job. That’s the kind of shit you do for the people you love.

your partner is not your therapist. listening to your partner is one thing, but it is not their responsibility to help you work through your shit. that is on you.

one more time.

your partner is not your therapist.

also if I may hop onto this, I REALLY hate when people try to spin “therapists only listen because it’s their job” as a BAD thing. can you imagine if we tried to apply that to literally any other profession?

“why take your phone into the store to get it fixed? they don’t care about you, they’re only doing their job.”

“I don’t want to order a pizza. they’re not making it for me out of the goodness of their hearts, they’re only doing it because it’s their job.”

“why didn’t you just have your girlfriend do that surgery instead of going to a stranger who only saved your life because it’s their job?”

it’s their job because they are better equipped to do it than the other people in your life. jesus christ. 

ALSO

that person who has that job CHOSE that job, for one reason or another. They had a reason to go into the career. Either it interested them or they truly want to help people or what have you. They DO listen to you when you talk and they DO help you because they want to.

I started going to therapy last year and I was so taken aback by this one person’s attention SOLELY ON ME, because that had never happened with a person that wasn’t a friend or family member but she really fucking helped me and even got me set up with a psychiatrist in that same office. I’m on medicaid so I’m not really even paying these two people to help me with my depression and anxiety and adhd. they check in with me frequently to see how I’m doing on my meds and if I’m under any stress that is making it harder for me to cope.

It might take a few tries to get the right person for your needs, but it should always be a professional.