beyonslayed:

beyonslayed:

I need everyone to stop thinking that monogamy is a problem that polyamory solves so we can all finally recognize that relationships under patriarchy, be they monogamous or polyamorous, are afflicted with the same power imbalance skewed towards men leading to the whole set of problems (e.g. infidelity, abuse, uneven distribution of labor in relationships) that we’ve come to erroneously associate with monogamy thanks for coming to my Ted talk

Divorce rates being high and marriage rates being low in the West, and particularly in the US, aren’t because of some inherent problem with monogamy but b/c the political and economic conditions that coerced women into marrying men who would cheat, abuse, and leave them to do the bulk of work have gone away, largely, for educated, middle class or upwardly mobile women