op was a terf so I’m stealing the post but yeah if you’re called for jury duty and during the elimination process you’re asked if you’ve ever had any adverse experience with a man (harrassment or rape or any other male violence) just fuckin lie and say no & vote that fucker guilty bc they sure don’t screen for rapists on jury duty only survivors
I did this and sent a 40 year old man to jail for having sex with a 13 year old girl. Almost every day after each court session, I would burst into tears, sobbing uncontrollably because sitting in that courtroom was a trigger. I stuck it out because I was knew that girl deserved to feel like her voice was heard.
damn that’s incredibly brave of you thank you so much for sharing
Tag: abuse
When people say they remember their childhood perfectly and not in bits and pieces with mostly a black void of nothingness like me
?? hoW in th e fuk ???
For a long time I’ve wondered if this is normal or a result of continuous verbal and emotional abuse.
This isn’t normal, it’s the result of abuse, doesn’t matter what kind. Your brain was preoccupied with surviving, not remembering and storing memories. I have two friends who had similar shit childhood that I had, and they don’t remember shit either. And it’s easier to live with no or little traumatic memories, than have all of it on autoplay all the time. I know it makes recognising abuse for the abused person harder, because most of the time there isn’t anything to remember, just little insignificant things and slivers of memory, but if you know the sings of trauma, it’s easier. Also it has to do with overactive parts of the brain during abuse, some parts are enlarged, some are smaller (prefrontal cortex, amygdala, just to name a few), hormone regulation is fucked because of adrenaline and hypervigilance, also abused people learn the harder way in a school environment due to memory problems.
Fantastic.
here’s some fairly old comics i drew up for myself and then immediately forgot
these were from, i guess, the incredibly rocky fallout after breaking up with a pretty bad ex a few years ago, but finding this again has been really helpful (and surprising!)
hope my handwriting is ok haha
Wow this exactly describes everything that happened when I was with my abusive ex and what happened after we broke up.
Water Witches 