shrieking.
Tag: fatphobia
@ ppl who r pretty ,,, whats that like
Its fun people are nice to you because they want you to like them & you get things for free a lot
So it’s like being famous? 🤔
No not really… its not as noticeable. The only reason I notice my “pretty privilege” is because I lost a lot of weight (I was at 216 & now I weigh 160 & I’m 5’7) so I started getting treated differently. When people find you attractive they’re more likely to hold doors open for you, call you pet names, sit next to you in public places (when I wasn’t cute people would leave a chair between us more often), they laugh harder at what you say (I’ll literally say a chuckle worthy joke and people will literally cackle), they associate positive traits with you & will subconsciously have a positive impression of you before you even say a word. Lots of times if I don’t have enough money for something I’ll turn to put it back & the cashier will either straight up let me have it or give me a discount. Even straight men are nicer to me than they were when I was “unattractive”. I get called masculine petnames like “bro” or “bossman” a lot more & random men are 3x more likely to strike up small talk with me.
I wouldn’t really say I was ever ugly but not being pretty is kind of like how you would imagine being invisible to be. Literally people wouldn’t look at me for more than half a second when I walked into a room, now they will literally turn their heads to stare at me as I walk by & when I look at them like 🤨 they just keep staring. When I was chubby I had put a ton of effort to be waaay nicer to customers & literally stroke their ego’s or say something nice to them @ work to get tips, now I get tips whether I’m just chatting with them or barely even speaking. Like it’s not crazy amazing like people literally stare @ me all the time & it makes me insecure & if I try to talk to most people about it they think I’m trying to be like “ohhh I’ sooo pretty! Woe is me! But yeah for the most part its pretty dope tbh. I hope this answers your question.
So you think being fat/heavy set equates to being ugly? 🤔😞
No I think you’re putting words in my mouth
& completely missing the point of what I wrote. This is about how people treated me based of my looks which has nohing to do with how I think or feel & everything to do with with what society considers to be attractive.
I found this out, but in the opposite way. When I was in high school I worked out everyday because of sports and I was pretty small. I weighed 145 and was 5′3. I’m now about 350 for multiple complicated reasons. I thought I was ugly and gross in high school but that was just in my head. People flirted with me all the time, even at a drive thrus, people stared, people were much nicer and paid attention to me more often. I was constantly complimented, even by strangers. Basically everyone I liked I ended up dating. I didn’t have to try like I do now. Once I started gaining weight, up until about 210 ish, I was still treated fairly similar, though I could sense the change. I had to have perfect makeup on whenever I left the house and have a very interesting or cute outfit on, that was seen as feminine, to get attention. As I put on more weight the more basically invisible I became. People seemed to outright ignore me, or even be more mean to me, like when I needed a set belt extender on an air plane and someone laughed. Even my extended family stopped complimenting me!
I have accepted my weight, I’m cute and my weight doesn’t make me ugly, and looks shouldn’t even matter, but they DO. At least to the society at large. I still get complimented, but I still have to “dress up” in order for that to happen. But I think my confidence helps with how people see me? That’s at least my hypothesis.
Water Witches 