Tag: feminism

thoughts on Maya Gonzalez lecture.

It’s a western perspective to think of gender/sexualities as something to analyze and pick apart. Gender/sexuality is circles, gender/sexuality is nature. If someone identifies in a way you disagree with, why? Why do the words that feel good to them bother you? Is it an us/them binary thought? Question yourself. Do the words that they use for themselves cause you harm out of maliciousness? Or is it a personal wound that you are pushing onto their experience? Food for thought.

eevee-nicks:

twilekempire:

khenti-amenti:

corseque:

when people on this site think it’s woke to talk about straight women’s sexuality as if it’s gross

guess what’s been pilloried since the beginning of time? You guessed it

Not only this but it’s such an erasure of bi women’s sexuality as well. not everyone who has heterosexual attraction is even straight. lots of people in the lgbt community on this website like to blame straight and bi women for the shit that men put them through and think they’re woke for it…

THIS. There’s this overtone that you “get what you deserve” for dating men and it’s like… that’s classic misogyny, my friend. It lets men off the hook for their bad behavior and shifts the blame to women. Classic. misogyny.

And upholding lesbians/women in f/f relationships as uniquely pure and incapable of the things “men do” means that the discussion around what abuse looks like between women and how to cope constructively with that is really limited.

It’s a kind of Neovictorianism where the way women have sex continues to determine their worth as human beings, and only “pure” women don’t deserve to be hurt, only now sprinkled with LGBT politics as if it’s not still harmful and disgusting.

And don’t forget it’s only “pure” for women in f/f relationships if they have them in a way that’s tumblr-approved. That form of fetishizarion in and of itself is dehumanizing. We’re not pure. I can assure you. We do plenty of the things “men do” and holding us to a purity standard is awful because as soon S we step outside the bubble of acceptableness, people freak out and try to dictate to us what our sexuality is supposed to be.

Stop policing women’s sexuality and/or that is has to be something you approve of, period.

barbex:

gettingdinnerandpossiblythinner:

My favorite is people who send me unsolicited dick pics and then they’re like, “uh, hi? Are you ignoring me?”

It’s just so funny to me. Like one minute I’m designing bioreactors and getting published for heat dissipation in polymers and then I open this godforsaken app to dudes hanging brain who can’t even pronounce “saponification” calling me a slut because I won’t give attention to their limp excuses for existence.

3 billion years of evolution and the greatest form of communication you can conjure up in your fermented omelet of a conscience is submitting your wrinkly ball sac to a stranger on the Internet to substitute the attention your parents never gave their mistake of an offspring.

This is poetry.

brownbitchbisexual:

The fact of the matter is, men who have an obsession with sexual violence against women, and fill their novels with excessive rape, are all misogynists. Doesn’t matter if they’re ~making a commentary~ or ~exploring society~. Men are fixated on women’s suffering no matter how they manifest that fixation, and it shows. That’s why books about sexual violence written by women are very different from books written by men. 

free-dogs:

Normalize bare faces in ALL settings. Makeup should not be a requirement for beauty, professionalism or hygiene. Normalize the idea that if applying makeup isn’t enjoyable there’s no reason to be wearing it. Then destroy the elitism within makeup culture and destroy the idea that makeup as a hobby requires spending a lot of money.