Tag: healing

kyuubified:

ace-feminist:

brunhiddensmusings:

ouch-that-hurts:

“But your abuse made you kind”

I was always kind. My abuse tested my kindness and you are testing my patience.

‘no, my abuse made me a spineless jellyfish living in perpetual fear of standing up for myself, but thank you for framing that as a positive thing you like about me’

“I am a good person despite my abuse, not because of it”

Abuse made me hypersensitive to other people’s emotions while neglecting my own boundaries and comfort because I’m afraid of upsetting someone or having them lash out at me.

types of healthy coping skills

sensitivesuggestion:

1. self-soothing

comforting yourself through the 5 senses

Touch: stuffed animals, stress balls, taking a bath, a soft blanket

Hear: music, audio book, guided relaxation

See: snow globe, glitter, calming images, art, anything that pleases you visually 

Taste: tea, mints, gum

Smell: lotion, candles, incense 

2. distraction

removing your focus from the stressor for a period of time

puzzles, art, crafting, reading, movies, gaming, exercise, being social

3. opposite action

doing the opposite of the impulse that aligns with a positive emotion

affirmations, inspiration, lighthearted and encouraging focus

4. emotional awareness

identifying and constructively expressing what you’re feeling

journaling, listing emotions, using a emotional identification chart, drawing, therapy

5. mindfulness

centering and anchoring yourself to the present moment

meditation, guided relaxation, yoga, breathing exercises, candle gazing, going for a walk

6. ask for help

this is important to do when you feel like your coping skills are not enough or they are too negative and detrimental  

therapy is ideal for helping a person create a healthy coping strategy and incorporate it into their life 

*a coping skill is considered healthy if it helps you to deal with stress more positively, does not hinder your progress, and isn’t harmful physically or mentally. A coping skill can become negative when it is used to completely avoid dealing with the stressor. 

thewitchjournal:

Feeling down? Cleaning is definitely a self care thing for me, here are some good and overlooked cleaning practices as well as a few little things that might make you feel better :

• delete unused bookmarks on your web browsers

• delete untouched social media accounts

• unsubscribe to old email subscriptions

• organize your closet

• organize your food – throw out old and expired stuff and donate what you don’t want to eat!

• unfollow social media accounts that don’t make you feel 100% good

• change the color themes of your web browser or computer system

• change your desktop background or phone wallpaper

• vacuum 3 things you haven’t vacuumed in a while (windowsills, corners, behind the toilet)

• put your laundry away !!!

• reorganize your desktop shortcuts

• uninstall old computer programs

• change that lightbulb you’ve been ignoring for weeks

• organize jewelry and accessories

• sort your junk drawers and find a place for (almost) everything

• if you smoke/have pets/have a lot of people in your house, use one of those magic eraser sponges and wipe off the white moldings/ walls, you’ll be blown away by how much cleaner it looks

• give 3 big yawns

• deep clean your body- eat a healthy meal, shave if you like to, put on lotion and a face mask, pluck your eyebrows, comb your hair

• throw out empty bottles in the shower

• I know you yawned earlier just from reading the word

• throw out the old razor that’s been sitting in your shower for too long

• open a new bar of soap

• hang up a piece of art (and maybe make it yourself) even if you think it’s bad

• scribble a whole pen out of ink

• get rid of all the dried up drawing and writing utensils in your drawer

• unfold the pages of an old book

• dust off your vents and fans, open a window, fresh air is important

I love you, and every little thing you do is still a victory and a step in the right direction ❤️