op was a terf so I’m stealing the post but yeah if you’re called for jury duty and during the elimination process you’re asked if you’ve ever had any adverse experience with a man (harrassment or rape or any other male violence) just fuckin lie and say no & vote that fucker guilty bc they sure don’t screen for rapists on jury duty only survivors
I did this and sent a 40 year old man to jail for having sex with a 13 year old girl. Almost every day after each court session, I would burst into tears, sobbing uncontrollably because sitting in that courtroom was a trigger. I stuck it out because I was knew that girl deserved to feel like her voice was heard.
damn that’s incredibly brave of you thank you so much for sharing
Elon Musk wasn’t charged by the SEC for offering to buy back all Tesla shares at $420, which is what I’ve seen some people on here misunderstanding. He actually committed quite a serious financial crime.
Musk announced on Twitter that he had the money (from funders) to buy back all Tesla shares for $420 each. This meant that if you owned a share in Tesla, it would soon become worth $420. At the time he made that tweet, a share in Tesla cost $341.99. Therefore, because he made that tweet, people started buying shares at that price, in the belief that soon Musk would be buying all those shares back and they would make $78.01 for every share they bought.
This caused a spike in the price of shares in Tesla, as everybody competed to buy up as many as they could. This increased the value of Tesla as a company.
However, Musk actually did not have funders secured to carry out buyback of all Tesla shares. He knowingly misled the public about the plans of the company, and financially benefited from doing so. Fuck him.
I’m not sure where I fall on the “swans are evil” debate, but I kinda like this one.
This one is PARTICULARLY concerning because there is a distinct possibility that it KNOWS what the sign says and is trying to remove it in order to attract more victims.
One thing I find really troubling about Tumblr’s insistence on labelling people who make mistakes and/or do bad things as “bad people” is that it is absolutely against every clinical model of how to communicate critical feedback with someone, and also, to rehabilitate them.
When you write someone off and call them a bad person and morally bankrupt, it does two things:
Most people know in their hearts that they’re good people who want good things for others. So when you call someone a bad person for doing x, they will immediately ignore everything else you’re saying because you’re going against their internal understanding of themselves as a good person. Everything you say will be dismissed as an insult and not received.
Even if the person acknowledges they’ve done the wrong thing, writing someone off forever and making them suffer forever for this one problem behaviour is cruel, pointless and sadistic. it’s a power move, it’s putting yourself above them as a “better” person and not allowing the person to ever atone. Let people do better.
It’s very important to separate the person from the behaviour.
Almost all people wish they could do the right thing – the healthy thing, the action that best fits with their morals and their idea of themself as a good person. There are so many reasons people don’t do the ‘right’ thing: mental health, addiction, time, many conflicting priorities, resources, support systems, money, ignorance, how they grew up, how their parents behaved, etc, etc. Not making the right choice is almost never indicative that someone is Bad.
When someone does the wrong thing, it’s important to remember that it’s their behaviour that is an issue, not them as a person.
Eg. Jodie said she wishes “there weren’t so many gays in video games these days”.
Yeah, that’s homophobic as hell. However, let’s contextualize this.
If Jodie’s grown up in the Bible Belt, compared to many opinions she will have heard about gay folks (”I’d kill my son if he was a faggot.”), her opinion is very moderate. She probably thinks to herself that she doesn’t really hate gay people at all, they’re fine, but it’s ‘annoying’ how they’re inserting themselves into video games these days. She made this Facebook post right after playing a game with a male protagonist she was crushing on a bit, and then was shocked and upset when he showed interest in another man. She’s not used to men not being interested in women and is bitter today that game studios are pandering to the gays and stole this character from her.
Even more context: Jodie is struggling with being bullied in school, her father can be pretty harsh with her (but not her sister), and she’s supporting her best friend through depression. As far as she knows she’s never met a gay person.
Is Jodie a bad person? Because that’s how she’d be labelled on Tumblr. She’d be dogpiled for that comment and driven out of the community. That’s not going to improve her opinion of gay people or even demonstrate to her how that opinion hurts people.
On Tumblr, you’re presented a really narrow, myopic view of someone that encouraged to place heavy judgment on transgressions when they occur.
Most people who slip up are good people who’ve displayed a bad behaviour. Approach all people you communicate with with the assumption they are good people – because they probably are. Some of them might be damaged and defensive, some of them may be arrogant and entitled, but in their hearts, they all want to be good people who do the right thing.
When you give criticism to someone, see it as coaching them towards a better behaviour, not as cutting them down to size or teaching them a lesson.
Or they need a girlfriend that doesn’t mind listening and trying to help them work through their shit and defeat their fucking demons without asking them to pour out their soul to a stranger who is only listening because it’s their job. That’s the kind of shit you do for the people you love.
your partner is not your therapist. listening to your partner is one thing, but it is not their responsibility to help you work through your shit. that is on you.
one more time.
your partner is not your therapist.
also if I may hop onto this, I REALLY hate when people try to spin “therapists only listen because it’s their job” as a BAD thing. can you imagine if we tried to apply that to literally any other profession?
“why take your phone into the store to get it fixed? they don’t care about you, they’re only doing their job.”
“I don’t want to order a pizza. they’re not making it for me out of the goodness of their hearts, they’re only doing it because it’s their job.”
“why didn’t you just have your girlfriend do that surgery instead of going to a stranger who only saved your life because it’s their job?”
it’s their job because they are better equipped to do it than the other people in your life. jesus christ.
ALSO
that person who has that job CHOSE that job, for one reason or another. They had a reason to go into the career. Either it interested them or they truly want to help people or what have you. They DO listen to you when you talk and they DO help you because they want to.
I started going to therapy last year and I was so taken aback by this one person’s attention SOLELY ON ME, because that had never happened with a person that wasn’t a friend or family member but she really fucking helped me and even got me set up with a psychiatrist in that same office. I’m on medicaid so I’m not really even paying these two people to help me with my depression and anxiety and adhd. they check in with me frequently to see how I’m doing on my meds and if I’m under any stress that is making it harder for me to cope.
It might take a few tries to get the right person for your needs, but it should always be a professional.
look . if you wanna paint or write or sing or take photographs or play an instrument just DO IT. it might be hard in the beginning, it might not turn out as perfect as you imagined, but you know what, not even a professional artist thinks that way. and heck, you created something. you brought something to life. if that isn’t the best thing in the world i really dk what is
If you’re an adult, do the stuff you couldn’t as a kid.
Like, me and my sister went to a museum, and they had an extra exhibit of butterflies. But it cost £3. So we sighed, walked past, then stopped. We each had £3. We could see the butterflies. And we did it was great. We followed it up with an ice-cream as well because Mum and Dad weren’t there to say no.
I was driving back from a work trip with 2 other people in their early 20s, and we drove past a MacDonalds. One of the others went “Aww man, I’d love a McFlurry.” And the guy driving pulled in to the drive through. It was wild. But it was great.
I went to a park over the weekend and I was thinking “Man, I’d love to hire one of those bikes and cycle round the park.” It took me a few minutes to go “Wait, I can hire one of those bikes!”
I guess what I’m saying is, those impulsive things you wanted to do as a kid – see the dinosaur exhibit, play in the fountains with the other kids, lie in the shade for 2 hours – you can do when you’re an adult. You have to deal with a whole lot of other bull, but at least you can indulge your inner 8 year-old.
Water Witches 