dothepropaganda:

hot take: calling a trans person their chosen name and pronouns is THE most basic thing you can do for them and it is required you do so no matter what. our labels and identities are not a privilege. if you base your use of a trans person’s name/pronouns/terms upon how much you think they “deserve” to have them used or whether you like/dislike that person, you’re an asshole and i don’t trust you.

infrared-riding-hood:

pagesfromthebookineverwrote:

You Are Trans Enough:

Even if…

• You tend to present toward your assigned gender just because it’s easier that way

• You don’t always feel like or think it’s worth it to correct people who misgender you

• You aren’t out to your closest family, friends, and/or S.O(s)

• Sometimes you are perfectly comfortable presenting in line with your assigned gender

• You don’t feel dysphoria everyday

• You didn’t start to notice/acknowledge your trans identity until later in life

• You aren’t ready to use the bathroom where YOU feel most comfortable

• You pass as cis and you’re okay with that

• You aren’t binary trans

• You are still working to discover who you truly are

YOU. ARE. TRANS. ENOUGH.

I have to remind myself of these things often.

degeo-eitux:

antiandrogen:

trans woman: *casually eating chicken strips in the privacy of her own home*

terf: *banging on the front door* STOP HARASSING ME!!

Reblog to give a trans woman some chicken strips

justaqueerwitchy:

maudsponyplace:

robindaydream:

maudsponyplace:

yo if youre a cis woman who considers yourself an ally to trans women please take a second to read this

stop engaging with terfs, its not helping. it has never helped. stop reblogging terf posts to poke fun at them, stop directly engaging in arguments with terfs for the sake of getting off some petty insult or telling them off, youre not proving anything and youre not going to change their minds. doing something to “piss off terfs” does not help trans women, it just frustrates terfs, who will then take their frustrations out on trans women. terfs might tell u off or insult u but ultimately they see u as a poor victim who has been Brainwashed By The Trans Rights Activists™, youre not a target, youre not the one who has to deal with their anger, we are.

if u want to help trans women do things to uplift and support trans women, if u see a trans women is being harassed on this site by terfs throw some positivity her way. dont rile up ppl who are attacking someone else just to earn radical discourse brownie points.

Anti-terf activities that can actually be helpful for cis allies to engage in:

• If someone makes a post about “please don’t reblog from (popular artist) cause they’re a terf,” feel free to reblog it! Help spread information about who terfs are.
• If a trans woman makes a post detailing why terf arguments are absurd nonsense, feel free to reblog it! Help spread information about why terf ideas are bullshit.
• If you see a post like that, or a general positivity post for trans women, and there’s some terf being hateful on it, just reblog from OP! Even if someone further down in the thread “totally destroyed” the terf’s argument! Don’t give terfs a platform on your blog.
• If you see a post from a lesbian feminist blog you don’t recognize, give it a quick look before you reblog! This goes doubly true if the post talks about people in terms of “males” and “females” or the person has words like “radical”/”rad” or “female” in their url or blog title. Put in the effort to not reblog from terfs so trans women don’t have to do it for you!
• If someone close to you turns out to be a terf, cut them off and tell them why. Don’t think you can be an ally to us and still be friends with the people who want us dead.

But like the OP said, making a big show about arguing with terfs and mocking them doesn’t actually help us at all. I know it’s easier and flashier to fight a big evil enemy, but it’s better and more important to help the trans women who’re being hurt by them and by the world we live in.

Love and support trans women before you worry about fighting terfs.

very good and important additions here

Important for even non-cis people. Everyone who isn’t a trans woman needs to read this tbh.

Don’t give them the satisfaction of putting them on your blogs. Block them, call them out, but don’t interact.

We as a community (trans, lgbtqia+) need to do more, and do better for trans women.

next-door-writer:

Any name is a nonbinary name if you’re nonbinary.

Any hair is nonbinary hair if you’re nonbinary.

Any clothes are nonbinary clothes if you’re nonbinary.

Any body is a nonbinary body if you’re nonbinary.

How you look will never be as important as your identity.

flowerais:

Types of Nonbinaries: Flower edition

Roses: likes walks and looking at the moon, has a lot of love in their heart, squishy and affectionate, only studies when they love a subject, easily excited

Violets: tends to downplay their own abilities, loves creating things, makes a lot of goals, can be a bit dramatic, prefers winter over summer, quite reserved

Hydrangeas: loves fashion and classic movies, eats a lot of fruit, really passionate about certain topics, well mannered, sensitive, can be loud around friends

Lavenders: easily flustered, dislikes going out of the house, soft hearted, does a lot of sweet things for people, loves it when people compliment them

Sunflowers: really friendly & down to earth, loves astrology, unconditionally supportive, prefers pop over indie music, can be a little dramatic and petty

justaqueerwitchy:

What a beautiful day to remember that whether or not you experience dysphoria, your gender is as real as you are, and no one can take that from you!

Dysphoria is not a requirement to be non-cis. Gender euphoria is also an amazing things as well.

Also! There are different types of dysphoria!

If you’re experience is different that someone else’s? That’s totally normal!

We are all our own, unique individuals, and we will all experience gender differently.

This coming from someone who used to experience extreme gender dysphoria relating to calling myself a man or a woman. My dysphoria only lessened when I accepted myself as I am.

No one knows you better than yourself.

justaqueerwitchy:

thecuckoohaslanded:

This is gonna start off sounding weird but stay with me for a second:

We really need to move on from the current performative culture of “no terfs allowed” and “reblog to make a terf angry”

Because that’s not a valuable solution to the underlying problem.

You know what would really bother trans exclusionary/exterminatory radical ‘feminists’?  IRRELEVANCE.  They’re just like the Alt-Right; their worst enemy is an audience that isn’t receptive to their message of hate and won’t give them a voice to keep spreading it.  Instead of giving them a free pass to go back to their echo chambers and prey on young wlw that they can indoctrinate and radicalize into their transphobic cult, make it so that their voices don’t actually reach anyone in the first place.  Deny them stable footing to build a platform on.

You know how you do that?

Build an alternative culture of radical acceptance and validation for trans women in women’s spaces and especially wlw safe spaces.

Don’t just toss out a “fuck terfs” every once in a while and think your job is done.  If you actually want to be an ally to trans women, BE AN ALLY TO TRANS WOMEN.  Make your spaces a safer place for us, and be VOCAL about it.  Be consistent, persistent, and insistent on defining us authentically as women and make it obvious that we’re accepted and welcomed as such.  And make sure you are boosting the voices of trans women in queer and women’s spaces if there’s any doubt that you don’t have the best information to hand out on trans issues, because misinformation about us is the best weapon terfs have.  START DENYING THEM THAT WEAPON BY ACTIVELY PRESENTING A TRUTHFUL NARRATIVE ABOUT TRANS PEOPLE INSTEAD.

This exposes new generations to the reality of trans women’s lives and identities instead of letting terfs pick off and cultivate the vulnerable ones who don’t know any better and using the dismissive nature of performative allyship to convince these young wlw that there’s some gender conspiracy that’s letting men invade women’s spaces.  

(Which is obviously insane just on face value.  Can you honestly even imagine a cis man having to face the reality of womanhood for an extended period of time?  It’d be a trainwreck.  The whole basis of their philosophy falls apart in SECONDS when you just represent the lived experiences of trans women in an honest way.  No cis man could live a day in a trans woman’s shoes.)

If you don’t have the energy to deal with these people personally, by all means care for yourself by keeping them at a distance.  But NEVER believe that slapping a “twerfs can choke” in your bio is by itself enough to deal with the source of the problem, which is terfs preying on vulnerable young wlw by feeding them misinformation about trans women.

If you really want to be an ally to trans women you HAVE to present an alternate narrative of truthful information so these younger generations won’t be swayed by the false narratives that terfs are currently selling them.

Deny them their recruiting grounds by ACCEPTING AND VALIDATING AND WELCOMING TRANS WOMEN IN WOMEN’S AND WLW SAFE SPACES, STAND UP FOR US WHEN YOU CAN, AND NEVER LET TERFS CONTROL THE NARRATIVE ABOUT US.  Make their voices irrelevant by exposing them for what they are: predatory radicals that use the same isolation and misinformation tactics as the Far Right to cultivate new generations of twisted, vile rhetoric and a philosophy of violence and hatred.

Don’t just “reblog to make a terf angry”.  They take out that anger on US while you remain safe in the ‘terf-free zone’ you want your blogs to be.  

Instead build an authentic culture of love and support for trans women and spread visibility for the truth of our womanhood so terfs can’t keep selling their snake oil to new generations of vulnerable young wlw who end up making comics about literally boiling us alive.

Reblog to start building that culture of trans positivity and make the world a safer place for us to live.  

Reblog to validate a trans woman.

Hell fucking yeah, this is my 2018 resolution right here. Being LOUD and being PROUD of my support of trans women! I’m not a woman and don’t go into women’s spaces, but this blog is 100% welcoming to trans women and this is a fantastic read